Liesbeth Dillen — Am I Not Enough?

I wrote this book for anyone who has ever felt the gap between who they appear to be and who they are, and quietly wondered — am I enough.

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A story that reaches far beyond one woman’s life

As Esther Perel has said,
‘When you want it but aren’t having it… shame will convince you — it’s your fault.’

That shame is where Am I Not Enough? begins. Liesbeth Dillen tells it with honesty and courage — the gap between a life that looked perfect and the woman behind it quietly coming apart, and the long way back from there.

It's both intimate and universal: one woman's story, and a question almost everyone carries. Not a call to do more, but to reconnect — with your confidence, your courage, and your own worth. Because staying human starts with believing you already are enough.

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Hands holding the book Am I Not Enough? by Peter Henk Steenhuis, based on the story of Liesbeth Dillen

Black and white close-up of Liesbeth Dillen in nature, looking up at the sky with a gentle smile

From my story to a question we all carry — Am I good enough as I am?

I didn't write Am I Not Enough? to talk about IKEA, or success, or even what happened in my marriage. I wrote it because of the question hiding underneath all of it — one I think many of us carry: am I enough?

For years I performed a life that looked flawless while feeling more and more disconnected — from myself, from the people I loved, from what mattered most. What brought me back wasn't doing more. It was reconnecting: with my confidence, my courage, and my own humanity.

That's the work I do now, on stage and one-on-one — helping people stay human, lead, relate, and live from strength rather than fear.

Book me for keynotes — three signature conversations exploring how we stay human as the world speeds up.

Work with me one-on-one — I hold space and coach you to think honestly about what's pulling you off course — and to reconnect with your confidence, courage, and humanity.

Inez van Oord

Founder of Happinez magazine, writer and publisher

How is it that so many strong women show such vision and leadership in their work, yet struggle to set boundaries in their private lives?

This book is raw and beautifully written. Time and again I found myself thinking: Liesbeth, go! Leave! But she doesn’t. Strong women solve problems—sometimes even their partner’s. And therein lies the lesson. You can’t rescue another person. At best, you can stand beside them. So very recognizable.